Great Expectations..!Or Disappointments..?!

Sometimes people come into our lives and change the way we feel for it...

 Sometimes people(who are not that important to us..) go out of the way to help us and we wonder why?
And sometimes there are people really close to us,who we count upon and expect to be by our side...
But do they...?

 When you really care for a person and at times even worry about that person is it wrong to expect the same from them?
But we all expect some amount of emotion in return don't we?
 Can we ever be in any relation without expectations...
Now we do not expect anyone to try to make everyday worth living for us (because we'd have to do that ourselves ...) but we do expect some people to "bother" about our feelings and our emotions because we did the same for them...

  Maybe we had gone out of the way solving some one's issues or worried about them when they had a breakup or just listened to their emotional issues at other times or just been with them when they really needed someone..
But does that someone be with us  during our problems or even think of us, as we do for them..?
Most of the time the answer will be no..It is actually a selfish world and if your an emotional person with great expectations be ready for greater disappointments in future...
Then is it actually wrong to expect..?
I have this friend Pranky who is pursuing her PhD now..She is the eldest sister in her family who has supported her younger brother and sister from a really small age,it will not be wrong to say that she has given her life to her family...
She has been through a lot in life and one day all her bottled up emotions had their much needed outburst in front of me...She told me how she has made countless sacrifices of her bigger joys to give her sister and her brother a little happiness...
From cleaning their mess, to supporting them,and taking all the blame for their mistakes, to coming back home and hear that "it seems like we live in a guest house" she has seen it all..
She told me sadly one day day that she always makes sure they never feel alone or lonely and despite her nature, tries to forcefully strike some silly conversations or tries to cheer them up when they are sad...But when she needs someone they don't seem to find time from their so called busy lives,"there are times when I remain awake the whole night crying but no one bothers to talk to me about it.." she told me..
Now what would you call such kind of people? How can a sister be so indifferent towards her own sister who has done so much for her...Maybe there are no formalities in love but if a person loves or cares for you and devotes so much time for you it should be your duty to atleast care a bit about her feelings...
Our Maths teacher told us one day "I have one simple philosophy in life : Expect nothing and have 0 disappointments.."
Everyone wants someone to try to cheer us up when we're upset or squeeze our hands to say things will be fine,or just hold it at other times...
I have realized that maybe all of us no matter how strong we are(or pretend to be), need someone to hold us when we fall apart,someone who could help us find the broken bits of life and put it together, someone who would understand and support us when we go through all these rough patches of life...
But it is difficult to find such a person in life who will love you back as much as you love him/her...

 But I'm glad I've found 4 such people,Riko,Megz,Meow and Archie....

Comments

  1. Shareef S M AAugust 27, 2012 at 1:36 PM

    //Can we ever be in any relation without expectations..// yes.. why not? and if you really expect things from someone, make sure the person whom you expect is worth your expectations...

    and.. your maths teacher is 100% correct..

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    1. SoniaAugust 28, 2012 at 11:43 AM

      Ya i know, some his philosophies were really momentous..
      Maybe we can be in a relationship without expectations but will it be normal in our day to day life..? I mean its human nature to expect (with or without judgement..)..

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    2. Shareef S M AAugust 28, 2012 at 11:16 PM

      its upto the individual to make it normal...

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    3. Shareef S M AAugust 29, 2012 at 7:47 AM

      expectation always leaves some impact on us.. its upto us to what to expect, to whom we expect, and all, so that we can be away from disappointment..

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    4. SoniaSeptember 13, 2012 at 1:22 PM

      Ya thats true...Its no use expecting from someone who has no regard for that "expectation"..

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  2. SylviaSeptember 5, 2012 at 7:25 AM

    I completely agree with you.There can be no relationship free from expectations..Its but natural to expect from someone u luv maybe there are no formalities or give and take in luv but we always expect a certain kind of behavior or care nd concern back from ppl

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    1. SoniaSeptember 13, 2012 at 1:19 PM

      It depends from person to person as to what you expect from the person you love..
      But its better to expect nothing and be surprised each time than expect alot and be disappointed...
      And "a certain kind of behavior" is obviously expected specially when it comes to mutual respect..

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